No Means No - Boundaries with Kids

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Pretty simple, no means no and stop means stop when teaching children boundaries.
But this is also included for them.
Even if you are playing, tickling, hugging, kissing... if they say stop YOU SHOULD STOP!
If they say no, THAT MEANS NO!
They deserve boundaries too.
Forcibly making your children hug or kiss people doesn't give them any sense of security.
It's important they learn to do whats comfortable for them. Making them hug relatives when they don't want to can confuse them to no longer be aware of their instincts or emotions.
It teaches them they don't have control over their own bodies, if they don't have a say over their personal space of feelings what makes you think they will respect anyone else?
No one is allowed to touch a child in anyway when they are uncomfortable. It implies the adult trumps them and how they feel doesn't matter.
Their stranger danger instincts can be dismantling.
Listen and understand your child's cues.
For their safety and security.
We always ask would you like to "give love?" when saying goodbye, hello or goodnight.
We need to respect our children more and remind them we are here to protect them.

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