My Wife Is Having Twins

 First, don’t let the title fool you. You are BOTH having twins. This is VERY important because your priorities and expectations of life have just been dumped unceremoniously in the floor. Throw everything you know/knew about having a newborn out the window. 

I want to make this suuuuuuper simple for you men. I know you don’t want to read an essay. So, here are the things that are changing for you. 

1. You are BOTH having twins. 

2. You have to help more now. 

3. Say goodbye to video games and guys night every night of the week. Plan one night you get to chill and one night she gets to chill. 

4. Make date night a priority. 

5. Tell her how amazing she is. Every day. She’s going to feel like she’s bumbling along. (If you want more on how to help her feel loved, read “The Five Love Languages” and learn to speak her language). 

6. Plan on getting up in the night with the babies two. It’s impossible to calm two crying babies at once and you will both get more sleep if you do this small thing. 

7. If you’re taking classes or have extra on your plate, clear it out for the first 6 months to 1 year. You’re going to be exhausted and your wife is going to NEED you. Hear that? She NEEDS you. You’re going to be her rock and protector on a whole new level. 

8. Help with getting meals and meal cleanup especially if you have other children. You can help fill plates or hold a baby while you eat. 

9. Talk to her about how chores need to change. Figure out which ones you can take on regularly. 

10. Learn to notice if the floors need vacuumed or dishes need done. And just do it. 

11. If she’s being a complete grouch and yelling way too much, ask her if you can watch the kids while she takes a nap. Give her permission to rest because she’s probably guilt tripping herself if she needs to rest. 

There you have it. 11 tips to empower you as you enter this new season of life! Questions? Ask in the comments and I may just get my husband to help answer them.